Am I sure I want to marry you?
April 2nd 2008 09:45
Toni's post 181 things to do before getting married links back to an article from a groom's point of view on things to do to make sure you do want to get married to your bride. One of which is: "Go on a camping trip with your prospective bride, one without electricity or water, and in a location where cell phones don't work, then see how well you get along."
Does make me smile. My sister's criteria for a boyfriend is that they'll be willing to be summoned at any time of the day to kill cockroachs that may cross her way. (And be able to stop her screaming)
Will and I met in Peru, and it made the perfect situation for both of us to realise we really are meant for each other. Often during dating, you would want to look your best and behave your best to impress the other person. Like I know very well that Rick (whom I met online) acts differently with me and not with me. He also dresses differently too, and made sure that any t-shirts or shorts with holes in them were well out of my sight when I am around his place. I myself admit I also behaved well in front of G while I was with him to make the best impression. It's animal nature, just as the male birds always made sure they show the female birds their most beautiful features during mating season.
Yet with Will, it was a different story. We were both on a mission of our values, and had no intension to 'hook' up. The attraction was genuine, even after an entire week without a shower or wash (the lake was simply too cold for us to bother to clean up too often) and both of us covered in sweat and dirt from a few day's work, we noticed each other. We cherished the fact that we have the same values in life, and have seen each other in our truest form.
Maybe that's why I said yes. While I am seriously afraid of commitment (see my post on A Traveller's Fear to see why) I am willing to take our relationship to the next step because I know, I am not going to come across another person like him ever again. Trust me I have thought long and hard about it, about almost all things considered in the above 181 things list and I do believe I do want to eventually marry him.
Something I've never thought about with any other previous boys. With them, it was fun, but it wasn't real.
It has crossed my mind that what if CB came back to Australia? I mean, I did fall head over heels for him. What if one day, he appears at my door step while Will is gone and ask me to get back with him?
Yes, it has crossed my mind, but I know the answer. I shall say no. Because in no way will I ever have the same true feelings for him as I do now for Will. Lust maybe, but not love.
Funny how life plays out doesn't it? It was all pain and no gain before, and now, things are ALMOST perfect.
Does make me smile. My sister's criteria for a boyfriend is that they'll be willing to be summoned at any time of the day to kill cockroachs that may cross her way. (And be able to stop her screaming)
Will and I met in Peru, and it made the perfect situation for both of us to realise we really are meant for each other. Often during dating, you would want to look your best and behave your best to impress the other person. Like I know very well that Rick (whom I met online) acts differently with me and not with me. He also dresses differently too, and made sure that any t-shirts or shorts with holes in them were well out of my sight when I am around his place. I myself admit I also behaved well in front of G while I was with him to make the best impression. It's animal nature, just as the male birds always made sure they show the female birds their most beautiful features during mating season.
Yet with Will, it was a different story. We were both on a mission of our values, and had no intension to 'hook' up. The attraction was genuine, even after an entire week without a shower or wash (the lake was simply too cold for us to bother to clean up too often) and both of us covered in sweat and dirt from a few day's work, we noticed each other. We cherished the fact that we have the same values in life, and have seen each other in our truest form.
Maybe that's why I said yes. While I am seriously afraid of commitment (see my post on A Traveller's Fear to see why) I am willing to take our relationship to the next step because I know, I am not going to come across another person like him ever again. Trust me I have thought long and hard about it, about almost all things considered in the above 181 things list and I do believe I do want to eventually marry him.
Something I've never thought about with any other previous boys. With them, it was fun, but it wasn't real.
It has crossed my mind that what if CB came back to Australia? I mean, I did fall head over heels for him. What if one day, he appears at my door step while Will is gone and ask me to get back with him?
Yes, it has crossed my mind, but I know the answer. I shall say no. Because in no way will I ever have the same true feelings for him as I do now for Will. Lust maybe, but not love.
Funny how life plays out doesn't it? It was all pain and no gain before, and now, things are ALMOST perfect.
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Big Day Plunge
I love that line! A great gauge for determining whether a relationship is worth pursuing or not.