Weddings: Family, Friends and Relatives
November 26th 2008 10:58
So like, I go away for two weeks and there are more than 150 emails waiting for me to answer. Among those are more wedding invitations.
2009 is looking like a wedding year, with a lot of our friends and family deciding to get married, or am I just approaching that sort of age?
A friend of mine have actually decided to postpone her wedding until 2010. She was going to get married next year but apparently it was simply too hard to get every one in the family and relatives circle organised and trying to decide who to invite who not invite that it has put her off from having a 2009 wedding.
See, those things bother me too, and I think is one of the reason why I don't like weddings. Many of us have very complicated families, and trust me, coming from a tradition where EVERYONE seems to be related somehow or the other, and it's to "keep face" to have to invite them all makes me just want to walk into the registry to sign our names (which is what we have agreed upon for our nuptials) - Who to invite; and of those invited whom to seat next to whom and where to place your single friends and whether anyone is going to be offended by being seated a little further out the back? I watched my cousin plan her wedding back last year and it simply looked too hard!
Yes, I am starting to think a little more on our own marriage now and the more I think about (especially after hearing everyone else who is getting married next year talk about their plans) the less I want to have a wedding. I don't think it'll work. With my family, I am obliged to invite everyone. With Will's family, ditto. I have heard many horror stories about wedding guests enough for me to think twice.
How did you get around these things?
2009 is looking like a wedding year, with a lot of our friends and family deciding to get married, or am I just approaching that sort of age?
A friend of mine have actually decided to postpone her wedding until 2010. She was going to get married next year but apparently it was simply too hard to get every one in the family and relatives circle organised and trying to decide who to invite who not invite that it has put her off from having a 2009 wedding.
See, those things bother me too, and I think is one of the reason why I don't like weddings. Many of us have very complicated families, and trust me, coming from a tradition where EVERYONE seems to be related somehow or the other, and it's to "keep face" to have to invite them all makes me just want to walk into the registry to sign our names (which is what we have agreed upon for our nuptials) - Who to invite; and of those invited whom to seat next to whom and where to place your single friends and whether anyone is going to be offended by being seated a little further out the back? I watched my cousin plan her wedding back last year and it simply looked too hard!
Yes, I am starting to think a little more on our own marriage now and the more I think about (especially after hearing everyone else who is getting married next year talk about their plans) the less I want to have a wedding. I don't think it'll work. With my family, I am obliged to invite everyone. With Will's family, ditto. I have heard many horror stories about wedding guests enough for me to think twice.
How did you get around these things?
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Comment by Samantha Elley
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I always remember the advice given to me when planning our wedding. Effectively (after the nuptials) it really is one big party. If you are putting on the food, music and entertainment and people are still not gonna enjoy themselves...that's their loss.
I'd concentrate on the big issues - like the marriage - rather than the wedding, after all it's only one day.
Hope that helps,
Sam