The way forwards and the first date.
September 7th 2007 19:33
Regularity is the key to a healthy bowl. It's also good for organisation, something i need to work on. Therefore, starting today, i will write on here every Tuesday and Friday, barring civil war. If i write more then i'm bored and i have the time. I wish we all had more time.
What i'm going to write about, is another matter that i really don't have the answer for. I really like a blog that is fun to read (the humourist appraoch). What more, i've always felt that if you enjoy something, you'll be more adept to learning anything it teaches you. I won't be trying to advertise crack or prostitution...but think about it.
Anyway, hopefully i can help people AND make them laugh also. I think its a good way to proceed. My last post was all about first impressions. I mentioned briefly that you'll always get a date with a girl, even if it's just for coffee, if you ask them. It's all about confidence. Now i touched on what you should do on the first date, but i received a few messages saying it would be fun to explain it more. And I couldn't agree more.
The first date is more or less always a leg tremblerrrr. Butterflies grow teeth and eat your insides and you sometimes even wonder whether you should actually go ahead with it. One of my friends from College spent a good fortnight getting up the courage to speak to a girl, then when the time came round to going on the date, he backed down even though he fancied the pants of off her. I asked him why he did it a few weeks after, and he didn't have an answer. It might have been rejection, thoughts of the worst case scenario running through his mind, what if he doesn't like her etc. I haven't seen him for a few years, but i think he might be bisexual now, so maybe that explains a lot.
So you're about to run off to the toilets and hide when the girl shows up with a nervous smile and it's too late to back down. She's just as nervous as you. What is the first thing you should say? Hello is a good starting point. The basic level of communication can sometimes break down if there are a lot of nerves about to break, but a simple compliment followed by a question always gets the conversaation flowing. 'I like your hair, have you had it done? (add an 'especailly for me' if you want to stamp sarcastic flirting in there straight away). Get a compliment in there and you should be off to a great start.
You'll find that in the dayimte environment, conversation should be kept as smiley, flirty and nice as possible. Make the girl laugh! Don't bore her to tears with your work, i strongly advise listening more than talking. "Who can resist a good listener?" asked one of my girlfriends at Uni. Its a really strong trait that girls pick up on, and when they say we should talk about you, more often than not they want to talk about you a little bit, but would much rather carry on with you as the listener.
If that scenario comes up, change the conversation back to her within 5 minutes, and not only does the girl get what she wants, but she also picks up that you are interested in what she has to say (which, of course, you are). Massive bonus points.
Topics? If you're a beginner at all of this, and even if you're not, you'll always need to know
where to turn to when conversation runs dry, and on occassion it will, but its nothing to be afraid of. For now however, you'll just have to ponder what you can talk about, i'll continue this rather lengthy topic in my next post.
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