Relationships make you fat
May 18th 2010 11:50
I think I've just discovered the truth behind this 'myth' - relationships make you fat.
We use all sort of excuses - I am too settled. I got too busy with the relationship.... etc. You know, for the reason behind that extra bit of flab appearing on our waistline.
Well. I had an epiphany yesterday when I decided I am quitting my martial arts training temporarily.
For the past 6 months I've been to about... 3 training sessions. Shocking. I keep finding excuses (sometimes though, they were for real) - It took me to long to get home and then to get the car to drive out to training (work and training are on opposite directions from home) - I have to get off work too early and my boss won't be happy - I felt too tired after work (trainings are mostly after work, or really early on weekend mornings) - and I was simply just not motivated.
That really doesn't sound like me about three years ago, when I was going to training two to three days a week. What changed?
Well, I got into a stable relationship. Three years ago I was just with some guy I see when it's both convenient for us. Now, I am actually committed.
So what? You say. Yes. So what. That's no excuse. I know. However I have just realised WHY we keep making these excuses: It's because we have to do it alone.
That never bothered me. Why now?
Well, let's just say, it's just too tempting when you are the one leaving home after changing from your work clothes, while my ever so loving partner settles in on the couch with a good cup of tea in his robes... the thought of being able to do the same and snuggle up to him after a hard day at work is just too hard to resist.
Another difference is - I used to either live closer to work or closer to my training locations before, which meant that I could go straight to training from work (without having to touch down at home first) so the momentum was there and I didn't have to see the comfort of home before heading off to getting thrown around.
Not that I am saying that all couples should be doing the same recreational activities all the time. All I am doing, is provide an explanation to this universal saying - "they got fat because they are now too comfortable" - it's true, but it comes with reasons. If I find a way of not losing that momentum between work and training, I'd be going back. For now, an hour travel on the train home and then having to face training for 2 hours on just a quick snack, is just too much work
We use all sort of excuses - I am too settled. I got too busy with the relationship.... etc. You know, for the reason behind that extra bit of flab appearing on our waistline.
Well. I had an epiphany yesterday when I decided I am quitting my martial arts training temporarily.
For the past 6 months I've been to about... 3 training sessions. Shocking. I keep finding excuses (sometimes though, they were for real) - It took me to long to get home and then to get the car to drive out to training (work and training are on opposite directions from home) - I have to get off work too early and my boss won't be happy - I felt too tired after work (trainings are mostly after work, or really early on weekend mornings) - and I was simply just not motivated.
That really doesn't sound like me about three years ago, when I was going to training two to three days a week. What changed?
Well, I got into a stable relationship. Three years ago I was just with some guy I see when it's both convenient for us. Now, I am actually committed.
So what? You say. Yes. So what. That's no excuse. I know. However I have just realised WHY we keep making these excuses: It's because we have to do it alone.
That never bothered me. Why now?
Well, let's just say, it's just too tempting when you are the one leaving home after changing from your work clothes, while my ever so loving partner settles in on the couch with a good cup of tea in his robes... the thought of being able to do the same and snuggle up to him after a hard day at work is just too hard to resist.
Another difference is - I used to either live closer to work or closer to my training locations before, which meant that I could go straight to training from work (without having to touch down at home first) so the momentum was there and I didn't have to see the comfort of home before heading off to getting thrown around.
Not that I am saying that all couples should be doing the same recreational activities all the time. All I am doing, is provide an explanation to this universal saying - "they got fat because they are now too comfortable" - it's true, but it comes with reasons. If I find a way of not losing that momentum between work and training, I'd be going back. For now, an hour travel on the train home and then having to face training for 2 hours on just a quick snack, is just too much work
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Comment by Journeywoman
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Still, I think there is some truth to the comfort-begets-laziness theory as well...... when you're single, you're pretty much biologically inclined to look as hot as possible. When coupled, you're safe in the innate knowledge that you will be procreating together, and so you give up a bit on looking gorgeous. As with most relationship-related issues though, it'll be different for everyone. Nice post Amy.
Comment by AmyHuang
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I've been trying to get Will into martial arts with no success
You are right tho - after all day in the office the last thing you want to do is to say goodbye for another few hours again! (Only to come back later and they are already snugged up in bed with the cat)