A new baby in the family
October 29th 2009 10:21
Don't worry, not mine.
My cousin gave birth to a beautiful little girl last month. Isabella.
She was tiny you could fit the whole of her with 2 hands!
Only 1 month later now - she has grown double her size. Wow.
I like babies. At this age. Even if they cry it isn't really that loud. Poor cousins though, sleeps on average 2 hours a night or something. One major reason I don't want one.
Will reckons I am a in-the-closet-baby-lover, coz I'll look at the baby for ages, making faces and stuff trying to make her laugh (I don't think she can comprehend emotions just yet, but it's just something you do!) - yet, I am still afraid of holding the baby and definitely still don't want one of my own.
Think of all the sleepless hours, think of all the expenditure and cost through at least the first 15 years, think of all the fun and adventure we'll be missing out on, just because baby needs to sleep and we need to be there to watch over it.
Otherwise we'll be reported to DOCS if we just left it alone!
I've heard all the "Oh once you've had your own, you'll change" and "having the baby will be the best thing you've ever done in your life" - call me skeptic, but I am sure these mothers weren't thinking that when they suffer from the pain of pregnancy, labour and when they have to wake up every 2-4 hours because the baby just wouldn't go back to sleep.
Nope. Not convinced just yet.
Actually, we do have a solution to children. We'll adopt. There are plenty of children without a caring family out there - the world's population is already growing too fast for this planet so it doesn't need one more baby from us - we'll take in one of the already borns so not only are we not adding to the population crisis, we'll be helping a child out.
Good idea?
I think so. For me anyway.
My cousin gave birth to a beautiful little girl last month. Isabella.
She was tiny you could fit the whole of her with 2 hands!
Only 1 month later now - she has grown double her size. Wow.
I like babies. At this age. Even if they cry it isn't really that loud. Poor cousins though, sleeps on average 2 hours a night or something. One major reason I don't want one.
Will reckons I am a in-the-closet-baby-lover, coz I'll look at the baby for ages, making faces and stuff trying to make her laugh (I don't think she can comprehend emotions just yet, but it's just something you do!) - yet, I am still afraid of holding the baby and definitely still don't want one of my own.
Think of all the sleepless hours, think of all the expenditure and cost through at least the first 15 years, think of all the fun and adventure we'll be missing out on, just because baby needs to sleep and we need to be there to watch over it.
Otherwise we'll be reported to DOCS if we just left it alone!
I've heard all the "Oh once you've had your own, you'll change" and "having the baby will be the best thing you've ever done in your life" - call me skeptic, but I am sure these mothers weren't thinking that when they suffer from the pain of pregnancy, labour and when they have to wake up every 2-4 hours because the baby just wouldn't go back to sleep.
Nope. Not convinced just yet.
Actually, we do have a solution to children. We'll adopt. There are plenty of children without a caring family out there - the world's population is already growing too fast for this planet so it doesn't need one more baby from us - we'll take in one of the already borns so not only are we not adding to the population crisis, we'll be helping a child out.
Good idea?
I think so. For me anyway.
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Comment by Anonymous
But I don't think adoption is as idealistic as that. Usually the only kids that get put up for adoption nowadays are by parents who are beyond caring or too drugged up to care. This means the kids are usually severely messed up by the time they get placed for adoption. Adoptable newborn babies are a rare thing indeed. (And in terms of the amount of trouble babies cause, there is no difference between an adopted baby and your own biological baby.)
If you want to read about the realities of adopting and fostering children, try the following books:
Mixed Blessings by Deborah Lee
Another Place at the Table by Kathy Harrison
A Forever Family: a True Story of Adoption by John Houghton
Love Our Way: a Mother's Story by Julia Rollings
The Things I Want Most: the Extraordinary Story of a Boy's Journey to a Family of His Own by Richard F. Miniter
I have read them all and they are real eye openers!