Can I......?
April 12th 2008 13:12
Lack of freedom is one of the things associated with being in a relationship. It seems, that once in a relationship, you must always compromise, even if it means both of you don't get to do what you want.
On weekends when i receive an invitation from a friend to go on a BBQ, it seems like I can't just make up my mind then and now anymore. I often find myself replying "I'll speak to Will and get back to you."
Or, an issue I have been struggling with as a traveller, that I no longer can just book for one of those impulsive flight fares with say, Qantas, as soon as I get their Red-eDeal emails. I have to wait until I get home, find out about what time both of us can take holidays, if we wanted to go to the same place, and by the time we decide, the deal is often gone and we end up not going anywhere because we can't afford to pay the alternative prices.
So when in a relationship you often have to ask a lot of "Can I....?", and more often than not, you end up 'can't' and have to compromise.
Bummer.
I also find that the longer you are in a relationship with someone, the more you ask the question "Can I...?" even when it comes down to the smallest things like - keeping the lamp on to read before bed if the other person is already in bed, or watch a show at night because the other person might want to watch another show etc.
Do you find your relationship going this way? I don't like it, and I do miss being single, but then again, I'd compromise for LOVE.
Do you?
On weekends when i receive an invitation from a friend to go on a BBQ, it seems like I can't just make up my mind then and now anymore. I often find myself replying "I'll speak to Will and get back to you."
Or, an issue I have been struggling with as a traveller, that I no longer can just book for one of those impulsive flight fares with say, Qantas, as soon as I get their Red-eDeal emails. I have to wait until I get home, find out about what time both of us can take holidays, if we wanted to go to the same place, and by the time we decide, the deal is often gone and we end up not going anywhere because we can't afford to pay the alternative prices.
So when in a relationship you often have to ask a lot of "Can I....?", and more often than not, you end up 'can't' and have to compromise.
Bummer.
I also find that the longer you are in a relationship with someone, the more you ask the question "Can I...?" even when it comes down to the smallest things like - keeping the lamp on to read before bed if the other person is already in bed, or watch a show at night because the other person might want to watch another show etc.
Do you find your relationship going this way? I don't like it, and I do miss being single, but then again, I'd compromise for LOVE.
Do you?
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Comment by tlcorbin
Perhaps Amy, when the relationship in new it has the needs of a child and with time requires progressively less maintenance as it grows and matures.
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